You have broken the ice, messaged the person you are interested in getting to know better, and you are ready to propose meeting for the first date. It's not surprising that a lot of people can get stuck at this part because while you want to meet face-to-face, you may come to the realization that you know so little about this person.
Taking the steps to create the right first date should start with keeping everything in the perspective of the conversations you've experienced. So, if you have kept things light and breezy, you should try to keep the first date that way as well. With that in mind, here are a few tips you can use to help you set up the right first date.
Choose Lunchtime or Early Afternoon
Of course, you'll have to find a time that works with both of your schedules. If you both work weekdays, try to make it a lunch date if possible. If that is not practical, then go for a time on the weekend that is around lunch or early afternoon. You can even choose to have a breakfast date if that works best for both of you. The point is that the time commitment in making your first date will be rather short which is preferable. This is because if you get along, it helps sets up continuing the conversation on the second date. If things do not work out, all you'll be out in an hour or two and you'll still have lunch.
Focus on a Common Interest
You want to create a place of familiarity when messing about your first date, so instead of emphasizing how you two will be meeting for the first time, let them know that you want to talk more about a subject that both of you find interesting. For example, if they have an interest in the arts, you can ask about different places in the community which offer the type of art galleries that they enjoy. By focusing on the interests and not necessarily the excitement and trepidation about meeting for the first time, you take some of the edge off the first date experience.
Go Somewhere New
When messaging about your first date, emphasize a meeting place that is public and accessible so that you can minimize the hassle and keep everything light and breezy. Start your first date message with a comment about visiting a new place to eat or where you have never been before. This is important because you want your first date to be a shared experience of something new. And, if they have been there before, at least it will be new for you. You may find that the place is not up to the standards that you hoped, but in some ways, that makes for a better story and more memorable first date experience.
Your first date message should be one that is inviting, light, and fun. This way, you'll start off on the right foot.